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Ask Merrie Lynn- Our intent is bring healing, love, light and empower you to live your best life. Please share your challenges, questions, and concerns.
Merrie Lynn Ross. our funny, wise woman, born a creative intuitive, help you to find your core truth -your healer, wise one within.

Loving When Your Heart is Breaking

My mother is very ill and we know she has little time left. I can't eat or sleep, it's like my life is over too. How can I be there for her and not be so morbid in front of her?

Ali- NJ

ML Ali, My heartfelt blessings to you and your family. Watching someone we love suffer is a devastation. We feel out of control and the grieving process can begin when they are still with us. No matter how hard you try to cover up your true feelings, your Mother senses it. She knows you love her, and telling her how much you love her and sharing all you want to tell her, will help ease your pain. Make sure you eat healthily, power down energy drinks, nutritional supplements, Vitamin B's, Omega3's and a good multi-vitamin. Exercise will help relax you and increase your appetite,

Make time to see friends, share a meal, go to a movie. Distractions are OK, to ease your mind and to give yourself time to breathe. Meditation, chanting, and prayer will soothe your heart. Be authentic with your mother, laugh and cry. Go gentle with yourself, one day at a time. Being authentic with how you feel, will release her to do the same.

Remember your Mother is with you now...and know the soul does not die...you will be eternally connected.

Being Right...What Counts? I am so grateful you are here and how you inspire so many of us. We lost our home last year, due to a fire and our insurance did not cover replacing some of it. Now my husband has a leg injury and he can't work. I do work at home and he and I are at odds over every ridiculous thing. My nerves are shot. LaVerne J

ML.... You have determined that what you argue about is ridiculous. Let's carry that to an extreme. If you could get your humor at life in gear, there might be some surprising changes. Instead of getting caught up in a debate, "I'm right" stance, look at the absurd ,the ridiculous, the insignificance of the battles. What is underneath the quarrels. How does your husband feel about being home so much? Does he feel useless, bored, angry? From there decide you are not going to support this debate team any longer and tell him.

Find mutual things you like and do them. Time for a creative boost... massage, cuddling, watching the sunset alone and then together is a good thought. Meditate, jog...remember why you married and I suggest that he do the same. Hugs & Hugs to you both.

Reactions...and Forgiveness

I had an argument with a friend and I feel awful. She is very fragile and should have had more patience. She was like a bull in a china shop at a gathering and I pointed it out to her, maybe I was too judgmental. Can you give me some pointers to mend this? I know you can shed some light? Jenna

Merrie Lynn…..Whenever we step over what feels like a comfortable boundary, there will be energetic responses. Reactivity is a human condition, and in this case you are feeling remorse for what or how you responded to your friend.

Before we get on to apology….let’s take a moment and ask yourself: What bothered me about her reaction? Was I embarrassed, angry, trying to help? Breathe deeply for a few moments…and say out loud. “I forgive myself” ...and then say I forgive……. From this place of awareness, you can remove the energetic block that can fester inside. And, this awareness will become anchored in you on a daily basis.

When you are ready, apologize. Simply say something like…I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings, I really care. When we examine our reactions and take responsibility we build self-trust and it affects everyone you encounter. Be gentle with yourself. Hugs ox

Heart to Heart Connect Dear Merrie Lynn. It's hard for me to admit I've gained 30 pounds, I'm a single mom and I just got a new job. Stress is making feel like running aware from my problems. What should I do? Rebecca T, Seattle ML.....You know what you won't do, don't you? That is a clue what to do. You won't leave your children and you are proving yourself as a good Mom, you work and you're carrying your responsibility. You didn't mention if their father is a support or if you have family. No matter, you do need some support, emotionally as well as physically to handle your life. Eating is one way to comfort, when you feel alone, anxious and food becomes our emotionally reliable friend. Visit LightHeart Path here and learn the simple LightHeart Path Breath technique. Do it when you are going to gobble up something that is comfort food. Do it when you feel anxious, tired, or stressed. In time, you will see the triggers that cause you to turn to food. Have fun. What do you enjoy? Include your kids, swim, hike, get outside whenever possible and breath. Learn the HAHA laugh...share that with you kids too. Laugh and Breath. Keep in touch and see if you feel uplifted. Hugs, ML